I know my last few post have been totally TV-centric so I decided to discuss something I was thinking about the other day while perusing old pictures on Facebook. Friend break-ups.
Now I am not talking about gradually growing apart which is probably the most common way to loose friends or even some kind of falling out. I mean an awkward break in a friendship you thought was just fine.
I have always been a girl who prefers to have a small group of really close friends rather then a huge group of semi-friends, so naturally over time I have had friends that have moved on and even some that have been forcibly kicked out of various groups (think middle school folks.) Usually in these cases it built up over time, and the friendship ended slowly. It's part of life so whatever.
Not all that long ago I was broken up with. Actually, it wasn't just me that was broken up with, it was all of my college girlfriends. I know I have blogged about them before but we are a very close group. By the end of senior year we had six of us that were really the core of the group, my ex-friend...we'll call her Jane...was part of that core.
Jane could be annoying it's true, but we all have our moments and I considered her one of my best friend. Jane was someone that I always thought would be in my wedding. She had this compulsion about her older sister, I think she thought that her parents didn't like her as much and that she couldn't live up to her. When it came time to look for jobs she panicked and opted to do something completly different and out of chacater for her, by joining a non-profit type program (I am being intentinally vague here but it involved working with kids. And I didn't even think she liked kids.)
The program required her to move to DC which was great since a lot of my other friends, as well as myself, would be living in the area. I remember the last conversation we had as friends, she was about to move and we talked about how close we would be and how I could come stay with her on weekends since I was going to live with my parents. Everything seemed fine, and she had similar conversations with my other friends.
Then...boom..break up. When we were in DC she would come up with excuses not to see us, and keep in mind some of my friends LIVED there. She stopped calling...in fact she changed her number. We saw her a couple times and she acted totally weird. It was seriously one of the weirdest expirences of my life. I guess she just wasn't that into us.
I feel like I will always wonder what happened to make Jane break up with us. So I ask...has this ever happened to you? Is there a good way to break up with a friend?